Ghosting is the practice of abruptly cutting off contact with someone, without giving them an actual explanation or reason for doing so.
Why do people end up Ghosting?
Ending relationships is not new but the tactics and strategies involved to “call a relationship/friendship off” can differ.
One of the common strategies is “Open confrontation” where partners usually confront one another and directly discuss the end of their relationship. The other very common strategy is “Avoidance”, where one person starts reducing contact with their partner, leaving them extremely confused, insecure and making them believe that maybe they were the one at fault, irrespective of the real reason why the relationship was being called off in the first place.
Ghosting has gained immense popularity via new technology, online dating and social media. This has changed the way people connect and hence, it becomes “easier” for someone to not confront directly or completely ignore one relationship and more on to another.
What can you do instead of Ghosting?
It can be extremely difficult to confront someone while ending a friendship or a relationship, but saying something is better than saying nothing at all.
Here are a few suggestions from us!
- “You’re a lovely human, but I do not feel a genuine connection with you. Thankyou for your time”
- “It has been a pleasure knowing you but our values do not align anymore. I hope you understand”
- “I would appreciate it if you do not contact me hereafter. I hope you respect my decision”
- “You have disrespected my boundaries time and again, which shows you do not respect me. I would like to maintain some distance”
- “I have a lot going on right now and I do not have the space to hold a safe relationship”
- “I jumped in too soon and realised that this isn’t what I really want for myself. I apologise for rushing it”